The Basics: First,
the key to happiness lies in not relying on others to make one happy, but in acknowledging
that happiness comes from within. Second,
setting meaningful, personally challenging goals is an important element in
creating happiness. Third, happiness is
strengthened when one feels like they are actively creating the circumstances
and lifestyle they choose. Let’s explore
these a bit further:
Achieving the goal is not where happiness comes from. Yes, achievement gives us a short-term boost
in happiness, but longer-term, sustainable happiness comes from the wins along
the way, such as the small triumphs from making decisions differently and
overcoming habits – as well as the opportunity to be proud of our own
performance and deepen our own confidence, and from the positive relationships
that develop and adventures experienced.
Yet ultimately, it’s about WHO we become as a result of going after meaningful
and challenging goals, and how we feel about it. Of course, please do enjoy the fruits of your labor and celebrate
the actual achievement of a goal. Celebrate,
smile, enjoy.
Set the next goal quickly, before you have the chance to rest on your laurels. Beware that stagnation and minor depression often come immediately after achieving something significant. Avoid this by thinking of big-picture ideas, bucket lists, purpose, mission, etc…and pick an exciting challenge and set yourself back in motion. A life fully lived includes striving for something, a sense of purpose that gives people energy, and the growth that comes from effort.
Set the next goal quickly, before you have the chance to rest on your laurels. Beware that stagnation and minor depression often come immediately after achieving something significant. Avoid this by thinking of big-picture ideas, bucket lists, purpose, mission, etc…and pick an exciting challenge and set yourself back in motion. A life fully lived includes striving for something, a sense of purpose that gives people energy, and the growth that comes from effort.
To be most successful in creating more happiness for
yourself, you need to acknowledge that happiness itself is not a goal, but a state of mind. When most people are asked what they want, and
the layers are peeled back, they ultimately admit they want the money, stuff, time, and freedom because they want to be
happy. None of those actually creates
happiness! Technically, one can choose to be in a happy state of mind
regardless of outer circumstances. Most
people allow their happiness to be conditional upon certain circumstances or
the amount of control they feel they have.
It’s important to acknowledge that one ALWAYS has control over how they
feel. It takes a good deal of practice
for most people, so especially when still learning and growing, seek to take
control in small, positive ways which will help foster happiness more
frequently until it becomes a habit.
Try it now: 1.
Select a personally meaningful goal that requires you to get out of your
comfort zone. 2. Identify 3 small steps or tasks that you can accomplish within
the next week. This may require breaking things down into very small bytes. 3. Complete the first one within the next 30
minutes. 4. Smile. 5. Decide when you
will complete the other two and schedule them into your week. Enjoy the state of mind you just created for
yourself! (Repeat regularly for maximum
results.)
To your continued success,
Heather A Legge
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