"Be More Spontaneous." This is something I had been telling myself for years...
Read about Ben Franklin and the 13 traits.
I admit that I used to be kind of controlling and too "A-type" to enjoy ever really being spontaneous. I would try new things pretty easily and I actually like change, but when it comes to leaping right in on the spur-of-the-moment, I didn't used to be capable. I improved over the past few years, but it's still something I would like to get better at.
It may be surprising that a business coach would want to be more spontaneous. But here's the thing: I am so goal-oriented and always thinking of achieving more, that my tendency is never to do anything without analyzing it first. No doubt this has its place, and may even be considered a strength in some context, but we can't really live without some balance. I acknowledged this and allowed my inner wild-child to lead me into things I wouldn't have considered before.
I realized that spontaneity is still purposeful decision-making, but now it goes a lot faster and I've learned to rely on my gut. So maybe on some level, this is really about strengthening my intuition and embracing what comes as a result. Oh, and that includes releasing anxiety about the decision that was made, or worrying about whatever else I could be doing.
It was perfect timing for me this week because I was traveling. My cousin got married and several of us stayed with family instead of at a hotel. True to my old form, I was a little worried this might mean we were completely at their mercy (yes, I wanted to reconnect with family and spend good times with them, but hey, you know), so I rented a car for some flexibility. However, contrary to my usual approach of scheduling everything down to the hour with some contingency planning for good measure, I did NOT check out all the options before going on the trip.
I checked the weather forecast online, installed a GPS/navigation app on my phone, and decided to be fully spontaneous and roll with whatever happened. It was great! We had fun as a family and everything worked out well. We had some good adventures, as well as some nice time for catching up and relaxation. I couldn't have planned it any better. I learned to go with the flow and have a great time, and I am a richer person for the experience.